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Question by James J: Love question…What should I do?
OK…I’m 22 and in the Navy. Joined this year. Last month, I broke up with my girlfriend (20) of 4 years. I’m stationed in Charleston, SC right now and she’s in Orlando,FL. The reason I broke up with her bc she wasn’t motivated to better herself. She hadn’t worked since January and I was basically a crutch to her. I paid for her to get her CNA license but she never used it to get a job. I paid her phone bill and gave her $ when she needed it. I love her with all my heart, then and still now. But like I said I broke up with her, but I also think long distance and other stressors played a role in us breaking up. Before the breakup, we talked about marriage and what not…I even purchased a ring. Well, soon after the breakup, I started to talk to this other female on base. We hit it off like no other. It’s only been a month and love is already tossed around. About a week and a half ago, I realized that I still have strong feelings for my ex. But I also love this new girl. Is it possible for 2 people to make you feel the same? My ex has been through hell this past month bc I was her everything. She’s on her feet now…has 2 jobs and going to school. She wants to get back together with me. I know that if I did, we could go the distance, but like I said, I love this other girl as well. I’m torn. If I found a way to break up with the new girl, she would probably become depressed. I’m lost. Any helpful advice would be greatly appreciated.
Lily – No…I just know how a woman is supposed to be treated. 🙂
Strawberriland – I really didn’t care that my ex got 2 jobs after we broke up. That just shows she did it for me and not herself kinda. So that has nothing to do with it. About a week ago, I realized that even though she wasn’t motivated, she had my back. She was there for me in my time of need. We made each other happy. I know what I need to do, but I’m not good at hurting people’s feelings…point blank. Plus I see this new girl everyday. That makes things that much harder for me. Holy sh*t there is so much more to this story…
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Answer by Lily
It sure is funny how the girls you are with are oh so dependent on you and the girls that are not with you are flourishing. I think you like being the big man and having them lean on you. Your old gf wasted enough of her life being your patsy, let her be so she can go on her way. Stick with the new girl for a bit, besides she is closer to you physically and you can actually get some from her.
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